Sometimes it can feel like our teens are either freaking out or shutting down and no matter what we do, it is the wrong thing. It can feel like the roller coaster from hell, entering into tunnels that are dark and scary, and just as you think your eyes might be adjusting to the environment, you pop out into the elements so bright and startling your head is spinning. This can be how it feels parenting an adolescent and even how it feels to be the child, unable to predict, intercept, or control the emotional waves that seem to have a life of their own.